Being In A Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships - they are never going to be easy. Just like you would in any relationship, you will have loads of obstacles being thrown your way, you'll have arguments but the distance can put even more stress while these types of things happen. 

I know many people see long distance as being such a negative thing. But truthfully, for me it is one of the best things I have 💗

Between my boyfriend and I there is 120 miles. Yes, that may not be many compared to some relationships but for us it is a long way. Neither of us can drive so we rely a lot on trains and coaches to bring us together. Also because I am in college and Jamie is in full time work, we can only see each other on the weekends or until I get holiday. Jamie and I spend a lot of time on Facetime and playing the PS4 to make being apart a bit easier but if we apart for long periods of time it definitely affects us. 

Luckily, Jamie and I get to see each other quite frequently (every 1 or 2 weeks) so being apart doesn't seem so bad. If we have any birthdays or events on both of us can usually also get there. However, when we can't make it to each others birthdays or have to go without seeing each other for a long time, we tend to get upset and a bit more agitated with things.

If you are considering getting into a long distance relationship, just make sure you're 100% sure you know what you are getting into and how hard it will be. Obviously, the feeling when you get to see your partner is the best but the times when you're apart take their toll. 

Building memories is also easy, I have plenty with Jamie and not all of them have been when we are together. Some of the best things have happened to us when we have been on a phone call or on Facetime. 

Some tips for being in a long distance relationship:

• Don't think about how long you're going to be apart for - thinking of the time you won't be together will only make you more upset. Take everyday one step at a time and make sure you keep busy, then your mind will be taken off it. 

• Arrange times to meet in advance - arranging things in advance is a very good idea. That way there is more chance of getting holiday from work (if you're working) and travel costs will also be cheaper. Last minute bookings can be quite expensive. 

• Look into different options of travel - depending on how far apart you both are, different ways of travel will be cheaper than others. I find that coaches are the cheapest and although they might take longer, you save money for you both to go out and do things. However, you might find a plane/train is faster. 

• Talk as much as possible but don't overdo it - making sure you stay in contact is vital. Obviously you can text throughout the day but having phone calls/video calls can make things a bit easier. But, don't overdo it as talking all day everyday could make you a bit argumentative with each other, we all need our own space sometimes.

• Make memories - making memories can bring you some of the best things to laugh about. When things get a bit bumpy, Jamie and I love to talk about some of our best memories to lighten up the mood and make each other laugh. Happy memories are always the best ones. 

There are so many things I could say about being in a long distance relationship and so many tips I could give you but I would be here forever. Just always remember, it isn't always easy. Things will always be thrown your way. But you CAN get through it. 

Thanks for reading,

See you soon x